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Text Your Ex Back Tutorial – Understanding Across The Bow Texts

Uh oh…I can already see the little gerbil wheel inside your brain turning, turning, turning…

“Across the Bow text?  What the heck is that?”

I thought you’d never ask.  🙂

If you’re not familiar with the Text Your Ex Back program by Michael Fiore, then you probably have no idea what an across the bow text is, how it works, or what it’s used for.  But that’s ok.  Because I’m going to tell you right now.

What we’re talking about today is getting your ex back after a breakup.  More specifically, I’m talking about how to use text messages to get your ex back and fix your relationship.

Get all the steps of this texting plan here!

What Is An Across The Bow Text?

These are the first texts you’ll send your ex after you’ve done a few other things like figured out what went wrong in your relationship, established a period of no contact, etc.  They are your first opportunity to “get in touch”, so it’s important to do them correctly.

Inside Text Your Ex Back, Michael Fiore describes across the bow texts like this:

This is your first contact with your ex in a while, and it’s going to set the tone for the conversation to come. (That’s not to say that you can’t recover if you miff the first few texts, but it’s way better to get them right.) The first few texts are different than the rest. . . they have a specific purpose, and you need to keep it clear in your mind.

So listen up: the goal of the first text is simply to G.E.A.R. up for the conversation to come. (Aww! It’s my first acronym of the program– ain’t it cute?) G.E.A.R stands for GENTLY ESTABLISH AFFIRMATIVE RAPPORT.

(More from Michael at www.michaelfiore.org)

G (Gently) – an across the bow text should make it super easy for your ex to respond positively. Don’t make them do any intellectual or emotional work.

E (Establish) – an across the bow text lays the foundation for future texts.  It’s simply a “baby step” and should not be used to set up a time to meet your ex or to start a conversation about your relationship.

A (Affirmative) – across the bow texts should always be positive to help redirect potentially negative energy.

R (Rapport) – across the bow texts should inspire conversation and give your ex a way to respond without being pushy.

Michael goes on to say:

Put it all together, and you get the BIG IDEA behind Across the Bow texts: to create a subtle framework where your ex comes to the conclusion seemingly on his or her own that you should continue the dialogue, first over text, then in person, and then in bed. (Whoops! Did I say that?)

Across The Bow Text Examples

Inside Text Your Ex Back, Michael Fiore provides a couple different formulas for creating Across The Bow texts.  Let’s look at one right now that uses common interests between you and your ex in a positive way.

For example, if you’re both basketball fans and love Lebron James, an across the bow text might take the form of:

“Just watched the Cavs game and couldn’t help thinking about you.  I bet you’re excited at Lebron dropping 40! Hope you’re doing awesome.”

Or, if you love to hike:

“Just got back from Cannon Falls.  Still love that place.  Reminded me of that trip we took there last summer.  That was so fun!  Made me smile thinking about it!”

Do you see how these give your ex a subtle compliment and allow your ex to open the conversation if they want to, but aren’t pushy in any way?  For example, you aren’t saying, “Just got back from Cannon Falls.  Let’s go back there next weekend together.”

A good across the bow text isn’t demanding.  It doesn’t pressure your ex to respond.  It simply sets the stage to ramp up the conversation little by little in a positive way when your ex is ready.

Simple, but super effective!

 

 

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3 Ways To Make Any Girl Want To Be Your Girlfriend

If you have your eyes set on one special girl, you may be wondering how to turn all of the flirtation and casual dates into something more long-term and serious. Making the change from an informal dating relationship to one that’s exclusive can be a challenging and somewhat intimidating proposition for both parties. There are a number of factors to consider as you deliberate about asking a girl to be your girlfriend.

Can you see yourself with this girl for the long-haul? Are you both ready to be committed to one person, as individuals? Do you have similar goals and interests in life or will your relationship be a constant battle from day one?

If you answer positively to all three of the above questions, then it’s time to gauge her interest as well. Let’s discuss a few helpful tips you can employ to make any girl want to be your girlfriend, and if you haven’t already, read this post as well: “Girlfriend Activation System V2 Review – Program Of The Year, Again?” It’s my favorite way to get a girlfriend.

1. Make Her A Priority, But Not Your ONLY Priority

If she’s a girl you’re sincerely interested in on a more meaningful level, then make sure you find the time to show her that. If you care about her, she warrants a level of attention you wouldn’t give to every girl you meet. She should be a priority in your life, but it’s also important not to make her your ONLY priority, as you need to maintain your individuality and also have a life outside of her.

When you make her a priority in your life, you demonstrate a level of commitment that indicates you’re ready to take things to the next level. What you have to figure out for yourself is whether or not she’s willing to make you just as much of a priority in her life.

Relationships are two-way streets. They won’t work if one person is on a pedestal and the other lives to serve. So as you make time for her, remember to gauge whether or not she’s on the same page by how much time she makes for you.

2. Ask Her Meaningful Questions

The chit-chat during casual dates (particularly the first few) usually doesn’t plumb the depths of the soul. If you haven’t already, ask about her past, her belief system, maybe her dreams, or her passions. Find out what makes this girl tick.

And – this is important – really listen to her answers.

The best way to make any girl want to be your girlfriend is to show her that you’re genuinely interested in who she is as a person.

3. Surprise Her

Now, I’m not talking about showering her with gifts like you see in the movies. Yes, everyone (guys and girls both) loves a thoughtful surprise now and again. But I’m talking about keeping things interesting.

Make her want to be your girlfriend by showing her the fun, spontaneous sides of you that you might tend to keep under wraps around other people. No one wants to date a stick in the mud, or someone so predictable the relationship becomes stale and boring.

Keep things interesting and exciting, and she’ll want to spend more time with you. After all, life should be an adventure!